3 Truths about Being Yourself Under Pressure

Recently, a close friend of mine has been under a lot of pressure to make huge life decisions based on the opinions of other people. Now, don’t get me wrong, we need the opinions of others in huge life decisions. But, sometimes people try to own your decision and have the final say.



David Bowie does not approve. And neither should you.

Here’s why:

  1. No one else is entitled to YOUR life.

Other people shouldn’t feel offended if you live your life differently then they would. They have their own life and if they are upset with you for a life decision you have made– they probably just need to start living their own life instead of caring so much about yours.

2. It is impossible to move on for long when you are not at peace with yourself.

You don’t have to wake up in the morning and see your friend’s face in the mirror. You can get away from your judgmental friend– but you can’t get away from you. If you choose something you deeply disagree with, you’ll have your own self to deal with. ALL. THE. TIME. So, be at peace with you above anyone else.

     3. If you can’t stand up for what you want or believe, then who are you?

I still struggle to define what makes an individual and I think the closest thing I can come with is an individual is a compilation of thoughts, beliefs, and emotions. If you cannot hold true to a belief, then what are you? What am I? If you continuously change with each situation and are so fluid in your thoughts, beliefs, and emotions that you are essentially undefinable, how do you know who you are?

Can you know?

Can we be ourselves and change with each opinion that comes our way?

I’m not quite sure we can.


Stay Lovely, Little Homes.



“True character is revealed in the choices a human being makes under pressure – the greater the pressure, the deeper the revelation, the truer the choice to the character’s essential nature.”
Robert McKee