3 Truths about Being Yourself Under Pressure

Recently, a close friend of mine has been under a lot of pressure to make huge life decisions based on the opinions of other people. Now, don’t get me wrong, we need the opinions of others in huge life decisions. But, sometimes people try to own your decision and have the final say.



David Bowie does not approve. And neither should you.

Here’s why:

  1. No one else is entitled to YOUR life.

Other people shouldn’t feel offended if you live your life differently then they would. They have their own life and if they are upset with you for a life decision you have made– they probably just need to start living their own life instead of caring so much about yours.

2. It is impossible to move on for long when you are not at peace with yourself.

You don’t have to wake up in the morning and see your friend’s face in the mirror. You can get away from your judgmental friend– but you can’t get away from you. If you choose something you deeply disagree with, you’ll have your own self to deal with. ALL. THE. TIME. So, be at peace with you above anyone else.

     3. If you can’t stand up for what you want or believe, then who are you?

I still struggle to define what makes an individual and I think the closest thing I can come with is an individual is a compilation of thoughts, beliefs, and emotions. If you cannot hold true to a belief, then what are you? What am I? If you continuously change with each situation and are so fluid in your thoughts, beliefs, and emotions that you are essentially undefinable, how do you know who you are?

Can you know?

Can we be ourselves and change with each opinion that comes our way?

I’m not quite sure we can.


Stay Lovely, Little Homes.



“True character is revealed in the choices a human being makes under pressure – the greater the pressure, the deeper the revelation, the truer the choice to the character’s essential nature.”
Robert McKee

Talk That’s Toxic

So, I put this charcoal mask on my nose and my cat has not stopped staring at me for 20 minutes.

You look ridiculous….


… … …no



Back to the reason why I am even writing this…

Charcoal, if you did not know this, attracts toxins. It’s why we use it to filter water, or clear our skin- like I’m doing.

And toxins got me thinking about Britney Spears.

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Not because she’s a toxin… but you know, that song Toxic.

Don’t you know that your toxic?  *attempts to sound like a bass* *attempts to sound like high-pitched violins* *fails miserably*


And it also got be thinking about not-so-concrete toxins– like hatred or worry.

Like what happens to us when life jumps at us unexpectedly.

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My toxin is that…


I have an overload of worry. Always have.

I overheard my dentist tell my mother when I was 7 that I had been grinding my teeth so much that it was extremely noticeable and I was ruining my teeth.

Grinding your teeth in your sleep is a sign of stress.

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Did I mention I was seven?

And just last month I was getting headaches every few days from my neck being so knotted.

So, lets just say, carefree days are something I don’t quite understand.

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I have sort of come to accept this about myself.

But, we can make things worse by placing ourselves in situations where we allow ourselves to continuously think toxic thoughts or choose to stay in a toxic environment.

And one very toxic environment I had in my life was Yikyak…. Let’s be real… an app where you can post anonymously just opens up a gateway for horrible, horrible things.

So, here’s my last yak.

So original….


What is something toxic in your life?

What will you do to remove it from your life?

Think about it….


Best of luck to you, Little Homes.